PINE PLAINS — When reflecting back, most people probably think their mom was just about the most perfect mom there ever was. In the case of the Chair of the Dutchess County Legislature Gregg Pulver (R-19), a Pine Plains native whose family’s ties to the Harlem Valley go back 315 years — it moved to town in 1711 — when he speaks of his late mother, Eleanor Yakubowski Pulver, in such glowing terms he’s not exaggerating.
Eleanor passed away on Thursday, Feb. 3, at the age of 95. Throughout her life she was a pillar of the community.
Acknowledging he was especially close to his mother, Pulver grew up on the family farm alongside his sister, Judith, under the loving embrace of his mom and dad, Anthony “Brud” Pulver, another pillar of the community in his own right.
Eleanor, though born in Sheffield, Mass., grew up in Millerton.
“I don’t know quite why she was born in Sheffield,” said her son, “but her family lived in Millerton their whole lives. She had nine siblings. A big part of her life was Millerton until she married dad.”
After dating for a while in what Pulver described as a “typical romance,” the pair wed on Feb. 7, 1959 and soon started their family.
“It was a great life,” said Pulver. “We knew we were loved, knew they always had our backs. My father was farming and running the business; she certainly ran the household. It was kind of a bucolic childhood; she cooked dinner every night, we chatted as a family, we always sat down every night at the dinner table.”
Pulver said much of his mom’s life also centered around the Catholic Church; in Pine Plains that was St. Anthony’s.
“She was very religious. We spent a lot of time in the Catholic church, I was an alter boy and my sister played the organ,” remembered Pulver. “A typical Sunday meant I arrived at church at 8 a.m. because she thought I needed that time to reflect on my sins. After 11 o’clock Mass the priest would come to our house and they would count collections, then the priest would usually stay for Sunday dinner.”
Eleanor also served as a Eucharistic Minister and Lector at St. Anthony’s, and was known for always making sure the church had flowers.
“She would always threaten us with God knowing what we did, she knew what we did wrong and the town knew what we did, so there was this trifecta of guilt,” he added with a soft chuckle. “We always didn’t want to disappoint her, we didn’t want to disappoint God and we didn’t want to disappoint the town.”
In addition to running the household, Eleanor worked for Farm Credit for more than 35 years, putting her bookkeeping skills to use. She was respected by her colleagues, her bosses and her clients.
She also helped her husband run his trucking business, A. Pulver Trucking, and later the farm (which kept the same name).
“She was a great mom, a great business person and just a caring person,” said Pulver.
More importantly, she put family first. When Brud became ill roughly 15 years ago, she stepped in to care for him.
“Mom took dad to dialysis three days a week for two years,” said Pulver. “It was tough. I told her, ‘Mom you’ve got to let me take dad to dialysis. It’s going to snowstorm or something…’ So I said, ‘This Saturday I’m taking dad to dialysis, what time to you leave?’ she said, ‘7 o’clock,’ I got there 10 minutes before 7 a.m. and they were gone. Finally I had to get there at 6:30. I had to kidnap him. They were a team in every sense of the word. They raised us as a team, they were inseparable. In 2008 he died, on Aug. 26. He made sure he missed our birthdays.”
Eleanor and Gregg shared the same August birthday, just days before Brudd died.
Pulver, who was Pine Plains town supervisor for many years, said when he became a county legislator, and then was elected chair of the Legislature, his mom was enormously proud.
“I think they both instilled a sense of community service in me, without a doubt, but my father didn’t understand why I wanted to do politics; my mother encouraged politics,” he said. “She was proud. My first term as chairman of the Legislature I brought her down with my mother-in-law, my wife and my daughter; my mom the strongest of all.”
Pulver said until a couple of years ago, he knew his mom would always give him good counsel. He would regularly run things by her just on a whim. They spent many mornings together having coffee; he always made sure she had a peanut butter hard roll and the newspaper.
“She read the newspaper cover to cover, anything that you printed or anything I mailed out, flyers — she had copies of everything,” he said, noting his mom was his biggest political fan. “Her daily paper was the Poughkeepsie Journal, but she did not miss The Millerton News, and the Register Herald back in the day. But she was an avid reader of The Millerton News -— and I’m not making that up.”
Pulver will miss his mom greatly, but acknowledged at 95, “she had a great run.” He said he’s just thankful he had so many wonderful years to share with her. More than anything, he hopes people remember her for her incredible kindness.
“The thing is that she cared about people,” said Pulver. “It was always comforting to know she was there.”
NORTH EAST — Habitat for Humanity of Dutchess County will conduct a presentation on Thursday, May 9 on buying a three-bedroom affordable home to be built in the Town of North East.
The presentation will be held at the NorthEast-Millerton Library Annex at 5:30 p.m.
Any first-time home buyer interested should attend the information session.
The application for this pilot program home-buying opportunity must be made between May 1 and June 10.Minimum household income for the pilot program is $55,000 while maximum income is determined by family size.
Applications are available at the North East Town Hall.Habitat for Humanity describes itself as a nonprofit with global reach, working across the United States and in approximately 70 countries.
‘Migration Collage' by ransome
If you claim a single sobriquet as your artistic moniker, you’re already in a club with some big names, from Zendaya to Beyoncé to the mysterious Banksy. At Geary, the contemporary art gallery in Millerton founded by New Yorkers Jack Geary and Dolly Bross Geary, a new installation and painting exhibition titled “The Bitter and the Sweet” showcases the work of the artist known only as ransome — all lowercase, like the nom de plume of the late Black American social critic bell hooks.
Currently based in Rhinebeck, N.Y., ransome’s work looks farther South and farther back — to The Great Migration, when Jim Crow laws, racial segregation, and the public violence of lynching paved the way for over six million Black Americans to seek haven in northern cities, particularly New York urban areas, like Brooklyn and Baltimore. The Great Migration took place from the turn of the 20th century up through the 1970s, and ransome’s own life is a reflection of the final wave — born in North Carolina, he found a new home in his youth in New Jersey.
‘Square Quilting painting' by ransomeAlexander Wilburn
Map fragments of North Carolina feature heavily in a large collection of eight-by-eight collage and acrylic paintings, sold individually but together mounted on Geary’s wall resembling the stitched patterns on quilts, like the quilts by the late Black American artist Arlonzia Pettway. Along with artists like Annie Mae Young and Mary Lee Bendolph, Pettway was a renowned artist associated with the quilts of Gee’s Bend, generations of women in the town of Gee’s Bend, Alabama who preserved African American culture in beautiful and vibrant textile art with bold combinations of stripes, textures and colors. The influence is also wonderfully clear in ransome large-scale collages and acrylic paintings like “Square Quilt painting” on display at Geary. It’s a powerful symbol of Gee’s Bend’s legacy continuing on, even under a new artistic medium.
In the smaller works, called “Migration Collages,” painted portraits are combined with pieces of floral and pastel paper, evocative of the tradition of “Sunday Best” splendor worn in Black churches in the South. “The women elders at my Baptist church often greeted each other that way on Sunday mornings when one hat was more elaborate, colorful, or wider brimmed than another,” New York Times veteran Lena Williams wrote in her 1996 essay, “In Defense of the Church Hat.” “It was traditional to put on one’s newest finery for church, and in many historically black churches, the wearing of fancy hats by women carried both spiritual and cultural significance.”
“The Bitter and the Sweet” is on view at Geary through Sunday, June 2.
Hospitality, ease of living and just plain fun are rolled into one for those who are intrigued by the leisure-time Caravana experience at the family-owned Four Brothers Drive-in in Amenia. Tom Stefanopoulos, pictured above, highlights fun possibilities offered by Hotel Caravana.
The month-long process of unwrapping and preparing the various features at the Four Brothers Drive-In is nearing completion, and the imaginative recreational destination will be ready to open for the season on Friday, May 10.
The drive-in theater is already open, as is the Snack Shack, and the rest of the recreational features are activating one by one, soon to be offering maximum fun for the whole family.
Tom Stefanopoulos, the second generation helping to guide the Stefanopoulos family’s recreational complex, brings a deep understanding of hospitality and business sense in support of the multi-faceted enterprise, begun in the 1970s, that is now a mainstay of the town of Amenia, located on a corner in the heart of the commercial district. He paused for an interview on Friday, April 26.
Two luxury camping trailers, each with an attached wooden deck and fire pit, make up Hotel Caravana, and each offers a different fun vibe, Stefanopoulos explained. The larger of the two, offers a California lifestyle, retro to 1967, although its modern where it should be. It can sleep four.
The smaller Caravana sleeps two and offers a lifestyle of the future dating to about 2041. It’s a brand-new Airstream, Stefanopoulos noted. It also has an attached deck with firepit.
“We get a lot of New York City people,” Stefanopoulos said when asked what sorts of people are apt to be attracted to Hotel Caravana. “They want to experience the upstate life,” he added. The idea of sitting out on the deck while watching an actual drive-in movie appeals to them, as does room service offered by the restaurant.
The lobster rolls prepared by the Snack Shack, are served on brioche hot dog rolls, either Maine-style or Connecticut-style, and the lobster can be topped with caviar. Four Brothers version is praised by customers for the generous portion of lobster in each, and the price is competitive.
Caravana guests may book for a single night, or maybe two, or even longer, taking advantage of the bicycles to pedal along the nearby rail trail, a local amenity, Stefanopoulos noted.
“We make our guests feel like movie stars,” Stefanopoulos said of the hospitality. And, if they like miniature golf, it is just a few steps away from their Caravana deck.
Asked how and why the Caravana idea began, Stefanopoulos recalled that as the drive-in theater grew in popularity, people were traveling from greater distances away. The last film of the night might start at midnight, he said, so the idea grew that Four Brothers might be able to offer an accommodation to stay the night.
In addition to Caravana, Four Brothers offers an alternative of two or three tent camping sites.
Future plans may include a third Caravana, Stefanopoulos said. Also, there is a giant mastodon skeleton, presently in storage, that should be on display, he said.
“It’s pretty big,” Stefanopoulos added.
The playground might be enlarged in the coming seasons, and perhaps an old-fashioned arcade added for retro amusement.
The community that surrounds Four Brothers remains important to the Stefanopoulos family as they offer substantial summer employment opportunity. Stefanopoulos said that a goal is to contract locally for business needs, such as musical entertainment and advertising. The drive-in also schedules occasion fundraisers to benefit local organizations, including the Amenia Fire Company and area schools.
